Sex Is Not Fair And It Never Was: Gay Man 101

I was reading the Bay Area Reporter recently and was dismayed at an article published about the Chicago Hellfire Club and the controversy over their policy excluding women this policy includes transmen who identify themselves as male. Now I never had an issue with that and there are more than a few clubs and jobs I have been involved with that excluded females.

Hell, I was a United States submariner for 10 years and they do not allow women on board subs either or gays for that matter (shhh don't tell anyone HEH!)... And for far less "good reasons" than simply they are a private "male" BDSM sex club catering to a certain segment of the community.

I have always respected Lesbian organizations and I for one have never once felt left out because they were for women only. If transexuals wanted to have their own organizations I would be fine with not being able to join them either. No foul in my book. No sir!

The point is that the Chicago Hellfire Club is a private club that caters strictly to the hyper-masculine MALE Gay Leathermen BDSM Community, period those guys born with dicks OK. Seems simple to me. My own personal sexual preferences make it highly understandable. I do not want a women or a transman in my bed. Is gay man 101 that hard to get? What part of no women, no used to be women, no not even men dressed as women, do you not understand? This is about SEX and SEX Turn-Ons not your silly feelings getting all hurt by rejection, that's too bad but that is life and let me be the first to tell you life, it just ain't fair.

When you talk politics or community support I am all for being all inclusive. If you want to argue about my sexuality and my sexual preferences it is none of your fucking business, fuck the hell off.

The Chicago Hellfire Club has never claimed to be anything else but a mens only BDSM club nor have they ever made themselves a public entity seeking to represent the entire gay community or even the entire BDSM community. So what is the issue?

Seems David Schultz a current member of the club wants transgender men included in the club and with the well known BDSM sexual event called simply Inferno but the majority does not agree with his point of view and showed their feelings about that in a recent vote on the matter by the entire membership. So David is withholding his dues.

Might I suggest he resign and find a private club that fits his views and I would guess his sexual preferences instead of crying to the Bay Area Reporter about it?

I think that is the point here, if you want to be in a private club like The Chicago Hellfire Club and have a private event like Inferno or create a private something like IML or whatever but also be transexually inclusive then put the time and effort in and make your own club or event and do that. To sit and bitch and complain publicly in newspapers because a majority of a certain membership disagrees with you is flat out whining.

As far as that asshole Billy mentioned in the BAR article. What the fuck man?

BDSM is about trust and respect and honor. Why would you purposefully go to a Leather Event like Inferno to flaunt your disregard for those very BDSM principles and try and trick people into doing a scene with you when you are not a man? There is nothing, not one word in those principles about having to fucking include your tranny ass in my sexual turn ons! I for one do not get where you are coming from and by lying about yourself I would not support your "fight" to seek inclusion, in fact you would be very lucky if I did not include your face into the nearest wall.

The fact you flat out disregarded these men and their wishes and came to a male only event (No matter what your fucking ID says YOU are still a TRANNY!) and were still treated with obvious respect says a lot about the values they have and a lot of the ones YOU DO NOT.

I wish people would simply put as much effort into supporting the BDSM community through mutual respect by creating their own damn legacies and their own damn clubs instead of always wanting to do the quick and easy thing of yelling, kicking, litigating and screaming to be included in everyone else's events. I get the feeling that is too much work for these idiots though.

This trying to force inclusion into sexual events meant "for a certain group" that are not historically open to "whoever wants to go" does not make Trannies "real men" because they are in fact acting like a bunch of fucking bitches in my opinion. I am sure I am not the only person they have just pissed off.

Listen in the end I guess I am a fucking dinosaur. I have watched the sleazy leather bars I enjoyed going to closed down because of those horrible sexually dangerous back rooms were not respectable for the growing Trendy Gay Communities the bars were in. I have watched the smoking ban destroy the places men liked to go and have a cigar. The street fairs that one after the other turned into major "events for yuppies" hauling their kids in strollers through so they could gawk at the freaky naked men in Leather.

Now I watch private BDSM events that were strictly for men turned into all inclusive circus shows for everyones entertainment.

Then people wonder why those things tend to not be the same anymore or even remotely exciting to go to anymore... or and this is the real point... Why people such as myself cannot be bothered to go because quite frankly it is just not for me. Why spend money to go to a sex event with people I have no sexual interest in?

Go figure!